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Last
evening in the Ecstasy Voyage (Anand Yatra), I had told a short story.
The story was--There was an Old Woman; she died in her childhood. People
had asked; if she was aged one how could she die in childhood, and if
she died in childhood then how she was old woman.
Asking
of people is correct; raising the question is natural. Old woman and
died in the child hood--unbelievable. Old woman died in the child
hood-- what contradiction. Old woman died in the child hood, there is no
relevance. People had asked, how it is possible? In this context I have
to say only this that it is not necessary that the understanding of the
older persons is matured. It is not necessary that the intelligence,
knowledge and understanding of an eighty year old man is also that of
eighty years old experienced person--it is not necessary. Sometimes a ninety
year old man has n and observed that a nine year old child has talent,
understanding and intelligence of ninety year old person. Some times the
children smash the ego of many grown ups.
In
a village a great scholar came to a village. Knowledge he had, but it
had not come from experience, it was from the study of the scriptures
and books. Knowledge he had, but it had not been flowered from the inner
most but had been wrapped over. Be careful; the knowledge wrapped over
from out side usually becomes the cause of ego. This was the reason that
scholar was more egoist then needed. So the scholar came in the village.
One day he said to a child, 'Hey Child! You become my disciple'. The
child asked-why? What
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will happen of it? The scholar said, 'I will will
give you the kingdom of heaven.' The child said, 'Sir you become my
disciple. 'Listening to the child's talk, the scholar was stunned: he
had never thought that a child can speak like that. The scholar asked,
'Why?' So, the child replied, I will give you the kingdom of Delhi'.
Scholar said in anger, 'Is the Kingdom of Delhi a property of your
father that you will give it to me? The child immediately spoke, 'So, is
the heaven of your father that you will give it to me?'
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Children are often very talented. It is a separate matter that
the society does not recognize their talents, and does not honor
them. Sometimes even saints also learn lessons from the talents
of the children.
It is
said about Saint Junnej that once he was passing through a
village. Outside the village he met a boy. The boy had a lamp in
his hand. Saint Junnej asked the boy, 'From where the flame in
your lamp has come'? The small boy listening to Saint's this
philosophical question was thought ridden. What does a small boy
know about this deep-mystery. The small boy was scared for a
moment, but next moment he was poised. He extinguished the lamp
and asked Junnej, 'Baba! first you tell me where the flame of it
has gone?' Now Saint Junnej was engrossed in thought. He had not
thought of that a small boy could ask such a question. The ego
he had of the knowledge melted. It is said that Saint Junnej
fell on the feet of that boy and said that it is not me but you
are learned. You have opened my eyes today.
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Children
are
genius.
But in place of encouraging their talents, the society crushes
them. So I said, sometimes we have the glimpses of knowledge
like that of 90 years one in a child of 9 years. On the other
hand sometimes we observe foolishness in a 90 year old person
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equivalent that of innocent 9 year old child.
You might have in your memory an event of the life of great
scientist Albert Einstain in which he had instructed the
carpenter to make a separate big and a small hole in the door
for the cat and her cubs living in the house for their' coming
and going. While the sanity was that from the hole the cat can
pass through, her cubs can also pass through that hole. So, that
old woman was such an old lady who was older in age but was not
matured in knowledge and sanity. Therefore, I had said that
there was an old woman who had died in childhood.
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So,
that old lady had a daughter. The only daughter whom she had
brought up with much love and affection. She was her darling
daughter. She was her dearest daughter. She loved her and also quarreled
with her. In love there are both love and quarrels; if there are
no skirmishes, then there is no thickness in love. Now the girl
is a girl. If the word Ladki (Girl) is dissected and its covers
are uncovered, the word is distorted and mutilated, then the
word Ladki (Girl) is a very loving, significant and meaningful.
The meaning of Ladki (Girl) is: which is the key of the Ladai
(war):
That is Ladki (Girl).
In
India, from religious point of view, there were two great wars.
One, the war of Ramayana, and war of Mahabharata. The cause of
both these great wars was a Ladki (Girl), a woman. The war
of Ramayana was due to a girl. Her name was Sita. Wife of
Maryada Purushottam Ram; King Dashrath's daughter-in-law Sita,
Bharat's sister-in-law Sita; Janak's daughter Sita. The king of
Lanka Ravan had abducted Sita by deceit and deception and the
war was eminent. Throwing our sight on the second war, there in
it is a girl-Draupadi. Draupadi with crooked laugh had told
Duryodhan only this: Blind's son would be blind. Draupadi's this
crooked laugh and bitter words had thrown Hastinapur in the fire
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of
war. Only one bitter word of Draupadi caused Mahabharat .
Therefore, it is said: do not speak harsh words.
It brings bitterness in life. The wound created by harsh and
bitter speech can not be healed by any medicine or ointment.
This wound is untreatable; therefore speak sweet. But the man is
very dishonest. He asks for sweets to eat but speaks bitter and
harsh. Now, we have continued eating sweets but have stopped
speaking sweetly; this is the reason that now in our life, in
our family, in our society, there is struggle, quarrels,
tensions and dis-satisfaction. Bitterness in speech will surely
have bitterness in life.
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Speak Less: Speak of worth
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Some people are unhappy because they speak much and some people
are unhappy because they keep mum, do not speak at all. So, some
people are unhappy because they speak at wrong time and some are
unhappy because they are silent when they are to speak. These
are the four causes of your maximum sorrows. For a happy and
golden life, sweet speech, less speech, business like speech
(worthy speech) and keeping silent, are all necessary from time
to time.
Someone had
asked: which is good, keeping mum or speaking? In its answer to
say this will be justified that at sometimes keeping mum is
good while at sometimes speaking is good. The reason of the man
will decide when to be silent is good and when to speak. He who
is unreasonable is thrashed definitely. A man had fostered a
dog and a cat in his house. He caressed both the dog and the
cat. The cat had a habit of speaking much. All day long she
would brawl Miaon, Miaon. The owner felt very awkward. He was
distressed that the cat brawled any time. One day he was eating
his meals. The cat came, sat before him and started brawling. He
was much angry. He said why was she repeating miaon miaon.
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He caught that cat and cobbled her. Nearby
sitting dog saw that the cat was being beaten for speaking. The
dog learned a lesson from cat's thrashing. the dog thought: if I
speak, I shall also be beaten. Its good for me to be silent. So,
he opted for silence.
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Then on one night, some happening happened.
Thieves entered his house. The dog saw; the thieves were
stealing; he kept quite. In the morning when the owner knew
about the theft in the house, he was much angry on the dog. He
said: unfortunate do I give you bread for this that when the
thieves come you sit silent and so he thrashed the dog. The cat
was thrashed because she spoke much; the dog was thrashed for he
kept silent. Mahaveer Swami has said, Silence is good, speaking
is also good. But where to be silent? And where to speak? The
man should have reason for this. So, the war of Mahabharat
happened due to a bitter sentence spoken untimely; and that
bitter sentence was that of a girl. Therefore I have said:
Ladki (girl) who is the key of the war, is a
Ladki (girl). If we look into the history of the world, we will
see that 90% wars, battles, quarrels are because of a girl, a
woman. It is so said that there are three causes of any
quarrel-Jar (wealth), Jameen (land) and Joru (wife or woman).
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So
it was the meaning of the word Ladki (Girl). If you so desire, I
may give you the meaning of the word Ladke (Boys). When there is
meaning of Ladki (Girl) there should be a meaning of Ladke
(boys). Every word has two meanings. For example, a word is Saja.
It has two meanings; one-saja meaning to decorate~ to adorn.
Second Saja meaning to punishment.
The bride is Saja (decorated,
adorned) for wedding The groom has got Saja (punishment) for
life.
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So, some other
words have also two meanings: For example, there is a word:
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Khate
The leaders Khate (eat) in the nation; therefore they have Khate
(accounts) in the foreign. There is a word Holi. A girl played
Holi (festival of colours) with a neighborhood boy and after
that she Ho-li (became) of him. Likewise, the word Ladke (boys)
have the meaning.
Pahle School-college mein padhte the ladke;
Ab school-college mein padhte hain lad-ke
(Formerly
studied in schools, colleges boys (ladke) Now studies in school
colleges after fighting (lad-ke)
So, there was an
old lady and she had a daughter. A girl, a daughter, a maiden
ought to be there in a house, for who does not have a daughter
become egoistic, become rigid, conceit and proudly. So, I have
said that there should be a girl. The girl shatters the pride of
many many persons; the girl gets the heads bowed of many-many
persons, the girl teaches so many to walk with bowed head. So,
there should be a girl.
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Some
people say, we have no daughter but two sons. They say so in
such a pride that having no daughter is something like pride and
vanity, and of honor. Keep in mind, he who has no daughter has
no heart because heart is where there is submission, modesty and
simplicity. He who does not have a daughter, is normally harsh.
They say, we do not have a daughter, so we need not bow; need
not to beg at any door, need not to entreat before anyone. The
daughter is a challenge to your pride. She forces you to bow at
the feet of someone. So, there should be a daughter.
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So,
there was an old lady and she had a girl. If you are a family
man, and you have a daughter as offspring, and no son, then you
need not be much
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worried;
need not to curse yourself and to feel unfortunate.
A
person came to me and said he had no son and had a lone
daughter only. I said, so what? The daughter is in many
meanings more important then sons, because the son shines only
one family but the daughter, the girl shines two families. The
girl shines father's family and also her husband's family. He
said, what you say is right, but my worry is that having no
son my dynasty shall end, so I want a son for my dynasty. He
was much worried for his dynasty. I said, it is not so that he
who does not have a son, his dynasty does not continue. Brother!
who is there to continue the dynasty of Mahaveer Swami? He was
a celibate since childhood. He did not marry. He had no off
springs. Even then he is known, he has his glory, his glorious
deeds are imbibed in the minds for centuries: It is more then
2500 years that he achieved salvation, even then he is
spreading his luster like North Star. Dynasty continues
due to sons is not true. If it was so, then great persons like
Lord Mahaveer, Mahatma Buddha, Vivekanand, Dayanand, Vmoba,
Acharya Kundkund, Acharya Shanti Sagar etc. had no son, even
then they have become immortal in the history of India and
they are alive in the hearts of the people. The talk of the heir ship
is all baseless. On this earth so many such great persons were
born who had no heir to carry their dynasty, still they have
become 'Param Hans'.
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So,
leave the worry of carrying the dynasty, because it is not
necessary that the heir becomes 'Kuldeepak'-it is not
necessary; he can become 'Kans'. You may remember,
Dhritrashtra had 100 sons, but what good did those 100 sons of
Dhritrashtra did to their ancestors? Ravana had thousand sons,
but those thousand sons together could not save Ravana from
destruction. Hundred sons of Dhritrashtra and 1000 sons of
Ravana could not bring any honour to their elders; could not
make their ancestors immortal. They could not glorify the name
of their family, then your one son will do what and how
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much good to you ? Which
form of help he will be to your old age? Therefore, it is
not necessary for you to shed tears that you don't have a
son. Learn to view a son in your daughter because the girl
also has the equal genes from father and mother as the son
has. Do not let such selfish ideas creep into your mind that
the son will bring glory to family, will be a support of old
age, the girl is a trust of others, in whose marriage dowry
will have to be given where as we will get dowry in son's
marriage. Aye you! Sometime the daughter brings that
honour and glory to the father, which many sons together
fail to bring to their father. Janak's daughter brought that
to her father which Dhritrashtra's 100 sons and Ravana's
1000 sons together could not bring to their fathers.
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One
Sita, by her observance of chastity made her ancestors
immortal. A woman is the mother of this universe and the
motivator power of Men. It is said, ''There is a woman
behind every successful man". To the time the honor and
glory and honor to the family and parents one daughter does,
the sons mostly cannot do. The care daughter take of the
parents, the sons probably cannot. The son after his
marriage is more favoring to his wife, whereas, in the
marriage of the daughter father gets a son in the form of
son-in-law. Therefore, I have said, there should be at least
one daughter.
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Not
Kanhaiya, but the Girl is Auspicious
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So
there was an old woman, and she had a daughter. There should
be a girl in the family because the girl is considered to be
auspicious. In no scripture, puran, any upanishad, any book
it is mentioned that Kanhaiya (son) is auspicious-no where
any such has been written. The daughter is auspicious,
and it is the reason that whenever in the society there is
any religious procession, in any auspicious ceremony, then
in that procession she walks with
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the
auspicious pitcher (Mangal Kalash): Kanhaiya does not in any
procession walks with the auspicious pitcher.
The daughter has been bestowed with the status of Mangal-
Kalash, and Mangal-Kalash is revered, because it is
consecrated (Abhimantrit). The daughter is also revered
because she is the symbol of auspiciousness. We always give
high status to Mangal Kalash, keep it at a higher place. In
the same way the daughter should also be given high respect
and honour, she should also be treated highly equal to
Mangal Kalash. No wrong and insulting behaviors should be
given to her. As we cannot kick a Mangal Kalash, and if we
kick a Mangal Kalash, we are doing a sin, committing a
crime. In the same way, the daughter who is auspicious,
cannot be kicked and dishonored, and if we dishonor her,
then consider that we are sinners and criminals. It is a sin
to kick Mangal Kalash and auspicious daughter.
And this crime is spreading
in our society very fast. The daughters are being kicked.
They are being treated cruelly. Before blossoming, they are
crushed. Innocent buds are crushed even before they spread
their fragrance. One evil in the society is spreading at a
fast pace that is Abortion. Today in our families, in
house-to-house, slaughterhouses are being started.
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I am not talking of the Idgah slaughterhouse in Delhi; nor
I am talking of the Alkabir Mechanical Slaughter house of
Andhra Pradesh, nor I am talking of the Davnar Slaughter
house of Mumbai. I am talking of those slaughterhouses,
which are being opened in your houses, and those are of
Abortions. Look at the misfortune of this nation-where Garbh
kalyanak was celebrated, today, in this very nation the
business of abortions is openly in force. There are Five
Kalyanaks of Tirthankars, and Garbh Kalyanak is the first of
them and to perform it Dev Indra comes from heaven. There is
a flood of such clinics where after pregnancy testing and
gender-testing, facilities for terminating of pregnancy are
available. There is increase in
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the
killing of the female foetus and the balance between Male
and Female is day by day imbalancing. Abortions have made
our houses the slaughterhouses.
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Slaughterhouses are the Disgrace
on the Forehead of INDIA
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Surely, the
slaughter-houses are the disgrace on the land of this
country. Slaughterhouses are developing as fungus in our
country. The government, to grab foreign exchange and
black money, is continuously destroying the cattle of this
country: exporting the meat to Arab nations. Remember; slaughtering
of cattle is not in the interest of the nation. Human
cannot remain Humane after eating the animal flash, he is
not eating the meat only; he is also eating the animal
culture as well. Non-vegetarianism has, to some
extent, made the human beings animals-this is the reason
that some person, though they are human beings, act as
animals. Eating meat is not in the interest of human race.
The natural food of human beings is vegetarian. The human
can understand religion
and culture only by
vegetarian food.
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Slaughterhouses are
the disgrace on the forehead of India's culture of Rishi
(Sage) and Krishi (Agriculture) and are big blow on the
economic structure of the nation. The slaughterhouses and
the Meat export policy has destroyed India's prestige,
self-respect and values. Violence is moving at fast pace.
If we fail to check fast spreading violence, the day is
not far away when the existence of human being will be in
danger. Today when we are celebrating the
50th anniversary of independence on its Golden Jubilee,
then, we will have to, for one more freedom in our own
country, start one Religious war. We shall have to return
humanity to human beings, and to free him from the bloody
clutches of the violence, murders, slaughtering. If we
miss this religious war
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the
killing of the female foetus and the balance between Male
and Female is day by day imbalancing. Abortions have made
our houses the slaughterhouses.
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Slaughterhouses are the Disgrace
on the Forehead of INDIA
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Surely,
the slaughterhouses are the disgrace on the land of this
country. Slaughterhouses are developing as fungus in our
country. The government, to grab foreign exchange and black
money, is continuously destroying the cattle of this
country: exporting the meat to Arab nations. Remember;
slaughtering of cattle is not in the interest of the nation.
Human can not remain Humane after eating the animal flash,
he is not eating the meat only, he is also eating the animal
culture as well. Non-vegetarianism has, to some extent, made
the human beings animals-this is the reason that some
person, though they are human beings, act as animals. Eating
meat is not in the interest of human race. The natural food
of humanbeigns is vegetarian. The human can understand
religion and culture only by vegetarian food.
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Slaughterhouses
are the disgrace on the forehead of India's culture of Rishi
(Sage) and Krishi (Agriculture) and are big blow on the
economic structure of the nation. The slaughterhouses and
the Meat export policy has destroyed India's prestige,
self-respect and values. Violence is moving at fast pace. If
we
fail
to check fast spreading violence, the day is not far away
when the existence of human being will be in danger. Today
when we are celebrating the 50th anniversary of independence
on its Golden Jubilee, then, we will have to, for one more
freedom in our own country, start one Religious war. We
shall have to return humanity to human beings, and to free
him from the bloody clutches of the violence, murders, slaughtering.
If we miss this religious war
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today, its results tomorrow will be terrible. Country needs one
more Mahabharat. The former Mahabharat was for throne
(Chair), and now it will be for kindness, Ahimsa
(non-violence) and life. And in this Religious war, saints
especially Jain saints will have to enact the role of
Krishna. Slaughterhouses have crushed the civilization and
culture of India. Therefore, for the safeguard of the
honour and prestige of the nation, these slaughterhouses
must be banned. Slaughter of the animals is the slaughter
of the economic structure of India. Today the animal is
slaughtered, tomorrow when animals extinct, the man will
be slaughtered. So, to save ourselves, we should save the
animals.
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Abortion: Slaughterhouse in every
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In this respect, tomorrow I shall discuss in detail. Today,
I have to speak to you, not about the opening of the
slaughterhouses in the country, but about the opening of
slaughterhouses in every house. Abortion is definitely a
murder of Jjva (Life).
It’s the murder of a Jiva (Life) with Five senses.
Foetus killing, be a male foetus or female foetus, it’s
the killing of a breathing live child. Foetus killing is
the murder of an unborn child, then, whether the foetus is
of one day or 10 days or 3 months or nine months. After
pregnancy, any as early abortion is performed; Jive (Life)
is certainly killed. Do not be in this belief that after
the pregnancy, life comes in the foetus after some months.
And before it, it is only loath of flash, which is life
less. The truth is that first the Jiva enters into the
womb and then its body and limbs are created. Slowly it
grows there and after developmental journey and nine
months difficult meditation and long wait puts its feet on
this world. When it takes birth from the womb of mother,
it is nine months old. The time of birth is not the first
day of its age but it’s the day of it coming into the
mother's womb. When any Jiva enters into this world, first
its Atma (soul) enters and then its body starts being
created.
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But misfortune is that no honourable behaviour
is extended to that coming guest. He is killed cruelly
and inhumanly even before taking birth. Remember, by one
abortion. Four sins are done. First sin, you have killed
a guest, because the Jiva entering pregnancy is a guest.
You yourselfhave invited him. He has come to your house
on the invitation of husband and wife, and the murder of
a guest of the house is a great sin in this country.
Because we adore guest as god: Atithi Devobhavah (Guest
is equal to God). Second sin : he is in your shelter.
Jiva who has come for asylum needs your kindness and
shelter. You have killed him, you are a sinner. Even
enemy who comes to asylum and shelter needs to be left
alive and forgiven. Jiva entering the womb is not your
enemy. He to should be forgiven because he has come for
shelter.
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Third
sin: he is orphan, poor and you have killed that orphan.
And that the Fourth sin is that he is your son, your
daughter, your own blood and he who kills his own blood
is the greatest killer in this world. To betray a guest,
to misbehave with one under shelter, to deceive an
orphan and to kill own offspring-are not any ordinary
sins, are the greatest crimes and sins of the world. One
abortion and Four sms.
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What
a terrible eon (Kaliyug) has come that the saviours have
become the killers. Mother- father who are the protector
and bringing up maintainers, they very have become
devourer of their offsprings and proving danger to them.
Abortion is a planned killing of living, innocent Being,
and there is no dreadth of killer parents in the
society. Abortion has become a flourishing business.
Foetus killing is increasing enormously. Lacs of
innocent children are killed in the womb. Certainly, its
a subject of misfortune and its long range results are
not in the best interests of the society. I wish that
the punishment which is for the killing of human being,
be also be given to person responsible for abortions.
That lady who has
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been subject to abortion, that husband who has motivated
for abortion and that doctor who bas performed
abortionall three are killers. Their han<Jsal'~<lrenched
with blood of an innocent and it is blood of murder
which cannot be putting Mehandi on it.
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The wisdom says, and it has mention in the scriptures and
books that in the family in which some member
commitssuici4e, that family's members are untouchable
for six months. Thos˘ family members can not participate in religious ceremonies,
consecration, worshipping and offering Aahar (food) to
Munis for six months. If six months offence is for
committing suicide, then, those persons who do
abortions, motivates and consents for it, should be
made untouchable for whole life. Such persons cannot
for their whole life touch the idol of god, cannot
coronate and consecrate, can never become Indra and
Indrani, can never give alms to Munis, because they
are the murderers of their child, killer of their
daughter. They are the murderers of the heir to their
dynasty, killers of the Pararnhans.
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Keep in mind, if you have killed the son or daughter by abortion,
then you have not merely killed a boy or a girl, but a
future Muni, a future Acharya, has been killed,
because, it may be that soul could have in future
become a Muni, an Acharya and would have preached for
welbeing, because, today's child is tomorrow's Muni,
Acharya, Social worker, Prime Minister or President;
therefore I have said: you have killed tomorrow's-a
Muni, an Acharya, a President. H you have killed a girl child in abortion, then think that
you have killed a Mahasati like Chandan Bala, Mahasati
like Sita, Trishala like mother of Tirthankara,
because every soul enters this universe with many
possibilities. It is, therefore, possible that that
girl, that daughter could have established ideals of
Chandan Bala and Sita, given birth to sons like
Acharya Kundkund and Acharya Shanti Sagar, could have
become reverend Aaryikas like
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Brahmi
and Sundari; eminent householder like Chelna and
Kaushalya. She could have become social worker like
Mother Teresa, Indira Gandhi and Luxmi Bai. It could
happen, because each soul has infinite possibilities.
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So,
I have said, that woman, that husband and that doctor,
all three are the murderers, and they shall not be
pardoned. The Karma theory says that whoso-ever have
done abortions, shall in many many rebirths remain
soulless, issueless. Such women who opt for abortion
remain barren many rebirths. It is not me but the
wisdom, principles and scriptures say. The women culprit
of abortion remain barren (issueless) for many births.
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The
mother, whose heart used to be as soft as butter, now
that very mother's heart has become as hard as granite.
It is therefore, that mother who agrees to consent to
crush that bud which comes to the family to bloom and
spread fragrance, the present mother has become cruel.
Aye!
mother is such who dies to keep her son alive, mother is
who herself remain hungry and feeds her son from her
breasts; mother is such who herself sleeps in the wet
and makes her son sleep in dry,
mother guards her son and does not sleep whole night.
The glory of mother is infinite. How much love and
melody is in the word Maa (mother). The whole
world's pleasures are there in the lap of mother. The
learning which we get in the lap of mother, is not
possible in the lap of any learned person. It is,
therefore said that the lap of mother is the greatest
school. The greatest music of the world is hidden in the
lullaby of mother. Mother's lullaby is the greatest
music. In presence of this music, Michel Jackson and his
pop-music is an utter failure.
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Maa
(mother): this word is engrossed in our life and its
beats. We have added this
word
with many words: Maa: Maa is there in Mahatama
(Saint), Maa is there in Aatama (soul), Maa is there
Paramatama (God), Maa is there in Aasma (sky),
Cinema has Maa, Dharamatama (Religious soul) has Maa.
Like potato mixes in all vegetables. Not only in
vegetables, it also mixes in words like Jhagad-alu
(Quarrelsome), Daya-Iu (kind hearted), Irsha-Iu
(Envy), likewise is the word Maa. We have created
many words with this word.
Maa
(mother), Mahatama (saint) and Paramatama (greatest
soul-god)-all three
are the base of our life. Life has three steps, three types. First
childhood, second youth and third old age. For all
these three steps of life, we have selected three
important words--Maa, Mahatama and Paramatama.
Mother cares for the childhood, in Youth if we go
astray, the Saint by his teachings takes care and in
old age if our death goes astray then God takes care
and corrects. Childhood is taken care by mother,
Saints take care of youth and God takes care of old
age. Therefore, I have said that nothing is more
important than Maa, Mahatama and Paramatama.
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So, that
mother, that mother of India, whose heart used to be
more tender than the
leafs of rose, now has become harder than Vajra (Bolt),
that she does not hesitate to consent for the
killing of the son or daughter growing in her womb.
Says, kill him, butcher him, cut into pieces, throw
acid on him, destroy him, smash his skull; throw it
out, I do not need him. That mother has become such
dishonest that she even does not side her own son or
daughter. Tender and soft like wax mother has become
hard like pestle (moosal). Whereas, mother's
affection, is such that it is said that everything
in the world can be artificial but a mother can not
be artificial. Her affection, her love, her
caresses can not be artificial. But now this
statement could be doubtful because now the mother
herself
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is allowing to butcher the neck of her son. She is asking
to cut into pieces and take out the flower
blossoming in her womb and asking to throw it away.
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Keep in mind, that mother who is an accomplice in the
conspiracy of the murder of her offspring, that
mother is not a mother, she is the enemy of that
soul of some previous birth and taking revenge
today. She is not the mother but a she serpent, who
herself is devouring her son, eating alive her son.
She is even worse than serpent, because mother serpent
eats her child only after giving birth, but the
mother of Kaliyug in the shape of a serpent has
eaten up that promising bud even before birth, has
swallowed that Luxmi who would have been the grace
and splendor of the family.
Sir, I humbly request to you
to collectively try to ban this increase in the
murder of the foetus. At present there are many organizations
and associations working to stop the violence
against animals and birds but no individual or
collective efforts are made to club the killings of
the foetus in the womb. This is the reason that
in the religious country like ours, lacs of innocent
children are killed every year.
I call up on all mothers, sisters and brothers not to
indulge in such sin. The one, who on your invitation
is coming to your house as guest, welcome him, honor
him. Keep in mind, the soul entering into the womb
is doing so on your invitation, because the
pregnancy is the result of the copulation between
male and female. he is your guest and we honor the
guest who comes to our home. It is the tradition of
this country that whether we get food or not but the
guest is fed. We get water to drink or not, but
shall definitely serve water to the guest even
keeping ourselves hungry and thirsty. But how are we
treating this guest? On the behest we extend loving
invitation
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and when he reaches your home, finding him all alone you attack
him, cordon him from all sides and kill him. This is
betrayal. I request you, let him arrive, he is preparing
for his birth, let him take birth. If you can nurse him,
bring him up, if you can feed him, feed him, if you can
extend mother's love and father's affection, give him. If
not, don't give him milk, don't provide shelter in your
home, don't give him the protection of mother's lap, don't
sing him lullaby, don't take him in your lap, throw him
soon after birth on the heap of waste, put him stealthy
outside the door of someone, but at least let him take
birth, let that soul emerge in this world, let him come
out of the abode of the womb all well.
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Human being
and Misgivings
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Leave
that soul on its own after the birth on its own fate. If
he has any Punya (Spiritual rewards, virtues), somebody
shall be there to feed him milk, it is in his fate,
someone shall become his support, if it is in his fate, he
will find the lap of some Yashoda. In this country today
there is need of such Yashodas who can give motherly love
to unwanted children, can give motherly affection. The
country is in want of such Yashodas who can give shelter
to Kanhaiyas born in some jails and can fee them from the
clutches of Kans. So, in your neighbourhood or in your
family, if there is any such woman who is trying to
destroy the son or daughter flowering in her womb,
persuade her. Say, sister! Do not commit this sin. The one
who is coming is your daughter and could a mother consent
for the murder of her daughter? No, never. Speak to her
that the coming soul comes with his own Punyas. Comes with
his own management. Parents are only the cause. Who are
you to manage for him? To support that Jiva (soul)? To
become support of that soul? That soul who is arriving as
your son or daughter has his! her own arrangements. Watch
the management of the nature, on the birth of the child,
the breasts of mother starts giving milk, mother's breasts
are full of milk. How has it happened?
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This all arrangements have been planned by nature. So leave
this misunderstanding that you are the base of his life.
Nature send him only after managing everything. The
motherhood of nature is ever showering.
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But
the men is very dishonest. He is living with this
misgiving and wrong belief that the child and the family
are moving with his support. He is supporting his
children. If he is not there, the children will not have
any food. Wife will die of hunger. Your this illusion is
just like ant. So it happened that an elephant was
going. An ant climber on it. On way there was a river.
There was a wooden bridge on the river which was very
old and shattered. The elephant stepped on the bridge
and the bridge with the weight of the elephant started
to crackle and creak. Seeing this, so the ant spoke,
brother elephant! I understand that this bridge can not
carry the weight of both you and me, and so it is
creaking. So if we both at the same time cross the
bridge, it shall break, so I climb down. So the weight
will be light. You move and I follow you. Saying so, the
ant climbed down from elephant. When the elephant
crossed the bridge, the ant said, look the bridge did
not crack because I had climbed down.
So,
that ant is none else: it is you. Your illusion are not
less than that ant. You also think that this world, your
family are moving on your support. In your absence all
this will shatter down. But its only your misgiving.
Man has created such illusions and misgivings that we
are astonished. You be free from this caretaker ship
that you are bringing up your daughter, trying for the
livelihood of this son. You are only the cause; ~e
ingredient are of that soul's itself Every person eats
of his own fate.
Once
two ants were going. On way they met an elephant. One
ant said to the elephant; Aye you! would you wrestle
with us? Before that the elephant ('.ouId speak, the
other ant said: Aye! Poor one how shall
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he fight with us? He is alone and we are two. In such misgivings
you are living; you don't listen to others; you go on
carrying your own beliefs. Duty-wisdom is falsehood.
But Lord Mahaveera says, '1 am the doer of this
matter'. This faith is the roof of the universe.
Duty-wisdom is the second name of falsehood. Acharya
Kundkund says: Do your duty but do not duty-wisdom
that I am the doer. Nothing happens due to your doing.
What nature wants, itself manages for it.
So
make that woman understand, Sister! do not commit such
sin, give birth to him and provide motherly shadow to
him. Let that doctor understand that just for some
money he should not kill a human being. Doctor, who
becomes doctor with this oath that we shall give life
to human beings, will bring life in the dieing man,
will serve the diseased and suffering man. But today,
for sake of some coloured pieces, for some shining
clinking money, the doctors have made it their
profession of aborting the foetus. Doctors and nurses
who do abortions are not less than the butchers who
kill innocent animals. They are not the Doctors but
killers and their such sinfully earned black income
can not be digested. Such money earned by killing the
innocent children such sinful income shall destroy the
peace of life. 1 want to speak to doctors and persons
engaged in such acts that they should not become
killers for such sinful income. There could be many
other ways of earning. Doctors engaged in abortions
are not doctors but butchers and their clinics are no
less than slaughterhouses.
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You
may feel that my talks are very sharp and pinching. 1
talk like this. What do to? Its my compulsion. The way
1 talk, they are of blacksmith. 1 do not talk like
goldsmith. 1 don't sing lullaby for sleep, but I smash
bombs to wake you up. The goldsmith does thak-thak all
day long, slowly, slowly hammers and it is then that
some gold is carved.
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On the contrary, Hammer once, and 10
the
work is done. I do not have the small hammer of the
goldsmith but the huge hammer of the blacksmith. My
each hammering is equal to hundred hammerings of a
goldsmith. So to you my talks be of the hammering.
But remember, there is all possibilities to change
your total life is there in my hammering. By my
hammerings either there will be
total change in life, or you shall run away out
of
fear: if you run away, you shall be devoid of the
pleasure of life. The aim of my sharp and
thought provoking pondering is only that there ought
to be a change in life at all cost. The evils of
society, its deformities, sins and hypocrisy should
be eradicated at all cost.
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I have come to your Delhi
to sell heart. Where the people have developed habit
of living with bitterness and cruelty, I have come
to distribute sweetness. Where people have taken up
poison as life, I supple nectar; where people take
thorns to be everything, I supply the fragrance of
flowers; where people worship darkness, I supply the
light of the sun and the moon. Where amavasys
(moonless night) has become deity, there I
distribute Poomima (full moon night). Truely, hidden
in thy discourses, in my Anand Yatra (Journey of
Ecstasy), in my poetry, I sell heart. I talk with
heart with people with heart, about talks of heart.
And probably it is the reason that people like my
talks, understand my talks and people come rushing
to listen my talks.
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Only yesterday, one
gentleman was asking why there is such a crowd
everyday in your discourses? I said, people come to
witness the crowd, and so it is added to the crowd.
If any person comes once to listen my discourse or
in the Anand Yatra, then he becomes a regular
listener. Then he can not leave. And I say to you
also that "You bring your daughter or
daughter-in-law or your son, who runaway from the
religion or saints, for once in my discourse or in
Anand Yatra. Being parent your job is to bring them
once,
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then to call them daily is the job of Muni Tarun Sagar. Its
not my pride, but my self-confidence, which you can
also test."
As just the previous speaker was saying that, "Munishri has
done miracle in Delhi. Here no more than 200 to 250
listeners used to come in the discourses of Munis
and Acharyas. But today the ocean of the listeners,
which is visible, proves that really the magical,
hypnotic voice of Munishri has magnetic power, which
attracts each and everyone. For the first time such
huge crowd of people has assembled to listen to a
Digambar Jain Saint." In this regards I also
say something: when I asked my followers to arrange
for my discourses at Lal Kila (Red Fort) ground, I
shall speak there. There was a hub-hub in Delhi Jain
Society. The established leaders of this place said
this is Delhi; here only 200 to 250 people come in
discourses, and on the day when 500 to a thousand
listeners come, it is considered as a big gathering.
Established leaders of the society persuaded my
followers to make me understand that it was not a
joke to have a discourse meeting at Red Fort. Leave
the dream of Red Fort and manage the meeting in some
temple or in some Dharamshala. Then I said to my
volunteers who had fear and doubts that you only
manage and leave everything to me. And I want to say
this to you also that:
"The
world bows, be there one to make it bow; And people
do come, be there one to call".
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So, people
of Delhi, I have come to talk to you of Dil (Heart).
This is Delhi. Here the machine has become the
master of man and the man has become its accountant.
The man here while. managing machines has himself
become a machine, and to the man who has become
machine, I have come to give him one hymn of life.
Previously it was the age of brain. Every man used
to use brain but now it is not
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the brain age, now it is the crane-age. Now every work is
done by crane. By mechanical method. Today, the
whole universe, from train to plane, from scooter
to helicopter moves with crane. Now man has
stopped using brain. Therefore, now people are
having brain-hammerage. Crane is a machine. Brain
is hymn and to save the people of Delhi from brain
hammerage, I have come to gift them the Mantra
(Hymn).
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And
that Mantra (Hymn) is this, you people of Delhi!
Do not give your heart to anyone else other than
God and Teacher (Sadguru) because in your this
beautiful heart resides your loving God.
If
you
give your heart to the world then you may suffer a
heart attack.
Therefore give your brain to the world, give your
body but heart, heart at no cost give to anyone
other then God. Your real wealth is the Parmatama
(Supreme Soul-God) sitting in your heart. It is
your property. Given this, what remains with you?
The man is worst then a beggar after losing God.
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So, this is Delhi.
Delhi has the view of whole India. Delhi is the history of
India, Delhi is the mirror of India, Delhi is the
heart of India. Here there is special Sangam
(Junction) of all religions. All political parties
have their headquarters here. Every
morning-evening games of win-loose are played
here--whole nation is controlled from here. Delhi
is the main artery of the nation. Nation's heart,
mind, intelligence, policies, industries and
administration is governed from here. All dangerous people of nation are present here. Five hundred to
one thousand persons sitting in the Lok Sabha and
Rajya Sabha, I call them dangerous people, because
whole nation's rein is in their hands but they are
not under anybody's control. They are uncontrolled
as free white horses pulling the chariot of nation
hither-thither. Result is before all. Instability
in nation, unsafe and violent environment is
there. So even if my talks are felt sharp and
pinching, keep listening, because they have the
vision of life.
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So
I was telling make that lady, understand not to become the
killer of her offspring. Even if she does not agree to
understand, tell her to give birth to that daughter at least.
When she is 40 days old after birth, give her to me, I shall
bring her up. So, there is need of such Yashodas who can bring
up children like Kanhas, and let not the children feel the
absence of mother's love and affection. By abortions, the
character, moral and ethical values are degenerating at fast
pace. Throwing of children in darkness on some cross-roads
unclaimed who are born out of sexual craving and pleasure
seeking is cruel and cowardice, it is also a mental disease.
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Mother's Milk is Not
Sold
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I have told
you that in the world everything can be artificial but mother
cannot be artificial Son can be wicked but mother cannot be a
wicked mother. I have heard, I have read that in the market
everything is available except mother's milk. Cow's, buffalo's
and goat milk can be available in market, but mother's milk is
not available. Mother's milk cannot be stored in utensils, it
can be found in toothless small mouth of the son only. Only
toothless mouth of the son or daughter has the right on
mother's milk. But presently, those foetus in mother's womb,
tender children are not only devoid of their this right, they
are dealt cruelly.
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And this
violence and offence is committed by none other then the
mother herself The heart of present mother has become hard as
stone, why therefore she agrees for such cruel acts. Remember
that the number of foetus is the blackest spot of womanhood. Foetus
killing has put question mark on mother's lap and mother's
womb, their sanctity and reliability. Mother's lap and
mother's womb cannot be rented. Mother's womb is that womb
which gives birth to supreme souls of Tirthankars, and preach
the world for liberation form the pains of birth and death.
The glory of mother, her lap and
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womb is eternal, that's why unparallel saint Acharya Mantung was
forced to say:
"Strinan Shatani shatsho janyanti putran,
nanya sutam twadupamm janani prasuta. SalVa disho dadhati bhani
shastra rashnim, prachyeva digjanyati sphur-danshu-jalam."
Aye! thousand and thousand wise Acharyas and holy saints have
praised the women. In that praise the mother's love,
affection and submission has been described as unparallel.
After given birth to Tirthankars she is the blessed one. You
have heard that in the fourth age (chaturth kaal)
Ttrthankars were born on this very land of India. Even now souls like Tirthankars can be borned. But in this Tirthankars
are not borned. At present Tirthankars can be borned.
Tirthankars' birth may take place, but they are afraid to be
born in this age. They think that if we have birth in this
machine age (Kaliyug) and someone opts for abortion, I shall
be murdered. Do
not know how many supreme souls like Tirthankars' are daily
killed.
You might be
remembering that for the welfare of the animals Government
of India has a law of Eradication of cruelty against
animals. It is said that to kill the offspring of animals
below six month's age is illegal and an offence. There is
provision of punishment to person engaged in such act.
Government has law to protect animal calf but it does not
have any law to protect human child. Up to 1971 there was
law against it. Up to that time abortion was treated as
illegal and an offence. But afterwards this law was
abolished and abortion was legalized. I wish that very harsh
law for the killer of human being should be meted out to
person opting, motivating and performing abortion.
So, the mother who
is even worshipped by Gods, has become cruel. That's why she
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kills
her child in place of giving him her love, eats him in
place of feeding him. Aye! Mother is such, who when
sleeping at night with her son, won't wake up be it gale
of thunder or raining heavily, but if the loving son or
loving daughter sleeping closely just make some sound, she
immediately wakes up and her hand moves on the back of the
son. Lightening flashed, clouds thundered, but
mother's sleep was not disturbed, but mother is
immediately awake on the slightest sound from son-why? It
is because mother's life is conjunct with son's life. The
heart-wire of mother is connected with heart-wire of her
son. It is therefore, when the son laugh's, the mother
also laugh's; when son weeps, mother also weeps. The
pleasure of son becomes pleasure of mother. Therefore, it
is said that the total beauty of the world is less to the
mother's beauty.
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Mother is Always
Beautiful
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However
is mother, whatever be her complexion or facial contours,
she is always beautiful person to her sons. Mother is
really beautiful. None can be as beautiful as mother. Even
ugly mother also looked up as beautiful. No one thinks
about beauty when mother is concerned. To be a mother is
being beautiful. Hindus have a deity whose name is
'Kali'. Really she is a black deity (Kali Devi). Her
horrible face, her large physique, garland of human skulls
around her neck, drinking blood by the resiling tongue,
eyes which may eat up alive, everything fearful and
horrible, but she is called Maa (Mother). Is called Kali
Maa. She being mother, we have overlooked her ugliness.
Mother, even if black, looks beautiful.
So,
mother's
beneficences
are so many of the child that it is not possible to speak
about them in words. In Indian culture it is said,
"Mother is like deity, Father is like deity, Acharya
(Teacher) is like deity, Guest is like deity:
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Mother is equivalent to God---mother is called God: for
mother always gives. Mother, after giving birth to her child
gives love and affection, labours, and gives her emotions.
Mother gives that everything, which enables the child to grow,
to blossom; but today’s so called educated children do not
take interest in the care of their parents. Do not prove true to
the care of their parents. Do not prove true to the wishes of
parents in their old age. It is a matter to be given serious
thought.
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I
know a son, who is a doctor son of his parents, and who is the
lone support of his aged parents-the center of hope of aged
parents. In dire situations, parents made him a doctor. To make
him a doctor the parents had to shed all their pleasures. The
son is a doctor. Once his mother fell ill. The doctor son cares
for his mother, medicates her. He manages for her medicines, but
when the mother is cured, he hands over to her the bill. Mother
looks at the bill of her cure and does not believe because she
could not think even in her dreams that her son would bill her
for her cure. Mother looked at the bill and then her 'Dil'
(heart) standing opposite her. Her eyes got watered. She was
helpless. Old age had made her limbs limp. And today the bill
given by her son had also broken her heart. The old lady had
tears in her eyes. She was so much desperate that words had
lost. Her voice had also lost. She was repeatedly looking at the
bill and the 'Dil' (Heart).
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How
much
incoherent
it is. To what extent today's offspring’s have become
worthless and disgraceful that very mother who had given him
heart, today's educated doctor son hands over to her the bill
for her cure. What a shame? Increasing neglect and indifference
towards older people is a dangerous signal. I ask is there any
mother who has billed her son? We won't find any such mother in
history who had said-son! I cleaned so much dirt in your
childhood-this is its bill. I had changed innumerable times your
clothes-this is its bill. This bill is for the milk you drank in
your
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childhood.
I kept you in my womb-this is its bill. Son, in your sufferings
I kept awake for night after night-this is its bill. Is there
any such mother who has given bill to her son for all these
services? No, no such exception has been viewed ever. And, if
anyone mother hands over even a single bill to her son
for only
one
service that she kept him in her womb, then could you pay that
bill? Do you have this much competence and capacity to make
payment to that bill? Remember! Repayment to mother's milk,
mother's nursing, mother's services can not be made even after
selling India.
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Some rich and affluent people appoint servants for the care of
their parents-
this is also wrong-service
of parents and worship of God should be done by self Servants be
not used for service and prayer. In this country there are some
people who construct temple of God: establish idol of their
adorable in it and then appoint priest for the worship of God.
Is it the way? I ask: Is there any man who marrys and then
appoint a servant to love his wife? Probably there is no such
man. But the man is so dishonest that he constructs temple and
then appoint a priest to worship the deity of temple. You are
ashamed to send servant before you wife, you laugh at this idea,
but sending before God? So, is God less then your wife? Keep
in mind: when servant won't serve the purpose in love, how could
a servant serve God and old parents? Service should be from the
depth of heart. Without heart, to serve is not service but
compulsion.
Keep in mind: whose parents are alive they don't understand the
importance of
parents.
Like we breathe. But what is the importance of breathing? We
don't understand, but when suffocating and breathing stops then
for the first time we understand the importance of breathing.
Like we do not understand the importance of our various limbs,
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but when some limb stops functioning and we become
handicapped then we feel the absence of the limb. Likewise up
to the time when the parents' patronage is there, the
offspring’s do not understand the value of that patronage.
But once that patronage is no more, then we feel its absence.
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Could you be for someone or not, doesn't matter, but do be of your
parents. Because whatever you are today, it is all due to
them. You are standing because of the energy given to you by
parents. You are the extension of your parents; you are the
part of the parents. You are Ansh (Part) therefore you
should try to be Paramhansh (absolute). By your good deeds,
your service to parents you have to repay the loan of parents.
You have much beneficence of theirs. Out of much beneficence
one is that they have bestowed you with life, saved you,
otherwise had they been parent’s of Kaliyug (machine age),
they would have killed you through abortion even before your
birth. But you are fortunate that you had parents of Satyug,
who not only brought you up but also educated you and made you
able. Now it is your duty to bring glory to them by your best
living. By education and initiation glorify yourself and your
family. Be the light of the family and glorify it.
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Light of Family: Sky Lamp
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In
Indian tradition the offspring is called the light of the
family (Kuldeepak) because he lights the family but when some
kuldeepak takes incarnation
(deeksha),
he becomes the light of the sky (aakash deep). And the lamp of
sky is of all, because it gives light to all. Light of the sky
belongs not only to a society but also to the whole nation,
whole
Universe!
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So,
who have given energy, to you, you should be submissive to
them, but the situations are contrary to this at present. New
generation, especially the
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educated one of urban area behave irresponsibly towards
their parents. One doctor son hands over bill to his mother
for her treatment, it is the insult of our society. It’s a
sharp blow on the face of social and human values. Its a
living example of our
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inhumanity
and beastality. Now the situations are so emerging
that we are feeling that the character and cultural values
are deteriorating at a fast pace, and if the Indian values
and character and thinking of man continues to deteriorate
at this pace, that the day is not far away when the mother
will be demanding for keeping the son in her womb for nine
months and her modern postgraduate son will take out his
purse from his pocket and say, mother! You talk of nine
months, take the rent for' whole year and leave me. Such
situation is to happen and we ourselves shall be responsible
for it. If new generation is not taught the lesson of
religiosity and value education, we shall our self-see it
happen from our own eyes. Therefore, I say that give this
new generation rites, traditions and make them cultured.
Because if the roots of culture are strong then the
hurricane of modernity shall not be in a position to pull
down the baniyan of culture-of the new generation.
And who
shall do this? Basically mother shall have to do this
because mother, woman has three faces, one of Luxmi (Goddess
of wealth), second of Saraswati (Goddess of wisdom) and
third of Durga (Goddess of Protection). Let woman take form
of Luxmi to make family culturally wealthy. To educate the
child let her become Saraswati and to eradicate the social
evils let her sit on the back of Lion and become Durga.
But
presently the woman has forgotten her power. Not only that
she has forgotten her powers, she has also become an enemy
of her own gender. For exploitation of woman, to a great
extent woman herself is responsible. Every mother likes her
son and hates the daughters it not the exploitation of woman
by woman. She has forgotten
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that this is that nation where the woman was not only
honoured but worshipped. Woman has been given the status
of Luxmi and Goddess. According to Jainism, if any woman
breaks the bondage of the world, takes Deeksha and becomes
Aryika (female saint), then she become holy and worship
able by men. Mahaveer Swami's disciple Mahasati Chandan
Bala and Sati Sita are the living examples.
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Today, woman exploits woman. A mother-in-law admonishes her
daughter-in-law only for this that she has brought less
dowry, she curses daughter-in-law's parents that they gave
less dowry in marriage. Daughter-in-laws are being burned
for this dowry. They are being forced to die. Her parents
are being shamed and dishonored. Remember! Dowry is also
violence, a sin. It
is modern
and new sin. It
has
spread its wings in all high-considered castes like
Mahajans, Jains, Brahmins, Hindus and in other castes also
and is eager to swallow the society.
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Remember,
one who eats flash or drinks wine is not the only sinners,
but those people who compel the bride's family for dowry
in marriage, decides upon dowry, do not hesitate to take
large dowry, are also in a way sinners, because they are
also in a way indulging in the business of flash. Because
they are openly selling their son in the market. They are
selling flash of living being. Therefore they are not only
sinners but also extreme sinners. It is to keep in mind
that those who are selling their sons openly in the market
of dowry are shaming their sons, because a groom purchased
in dowry can never keep his head high and he shall be the
slave of his wife and his in-laws. Dowry is the sixth sin.
Lord Mahaveer has mentioned five sins in the
scriptures-violence, lie, theft, dishonesty, and
accumulating wealth. But I say that now there is one more
sin, and that is-Dowry sin. On: the
pier of dowry, every day hundreds
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of women are sacrificed. If
in the form of increasing girl-child foetus killing and
women-dowry murders, violence is not immediately
checked, then in the coming times their results will be
horrible and blasting.
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I
very humbly request you all to establish ideals in this
direction and vow that we shall not permit this Dowry
Damn to climb over our heads. Fathers of daughters
resolve not to give their daughters to beggars demanding
dowry. That they will not give their daughters to, dowry
hungry greedy wolfs. That they will not give their
daughter to wealth crazy beasts. That who cannot give
honor of daughter to daughter-in-law, in that family
they shall not give their daughter. Don't give your
daughter in such families who put more weight on money
then life, in the interest of happy future of your
daughters. For whom marriage is not a sacred
relationship but a business, who take not the wedding as
the meeting of two unknown hearts, but a source of
income. To send your daughter to homes of wealth greedy
persons is to make her the goat of sacrifice.
I have to
speak to the fathers of the sons too, that you; also
resolve not to demand dowry. That you shall accept
whatever girl's father happily and affectionately gives.
That the bride herself is dowry. You will not let this
ideal shattered. That shall give honor of daughter to
daughter-in-law; shall behave affectionately with her.
That you shall accept daughter-in-law as Grih luxmi.
Today differentiation is being made between daughter and
daughter-in-Iaw--it is unfortunate. That mother-in-law
who put difference between daughter and daughter-in-law
treats them differently; she cannot be a mother-in-law
with Samyagdrishti (Seeing equal). The symptoms of
truely religious mother-in-law are that she extends love
and affection parallel to daughter to her
daughter-in-law, behaves affectionately. At present the
women are fighting for equality rights. This is
necessary too. Women, to become self-reliant shall have
to waken up their self-confidence
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and be educated to fight to eradicate the social evils. If
the woman decides that she will not let the girl-foetus
growing in her womb be killed, and shall not allow
someone's daughter who has come to her home as her
daughter-in-law be burned in the fire of dowry; then for
a golden future of the women it shall be a courageous
step.
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I have to say one thing to the mother in Laws also that they
should not draw a de-marketing line between daughter and
daughter-in-law. Extend affectionate behavior to
daughter-in-Laws as for the daughter so that their
worshipping, religiosity are not defamed. If one
mother in-law, who goes to temple daily, worships
there for hours, at home observes many kinds of fasts,
but differentiates between daughter and daughter-in-law
then her visits to temple are useless. She is not
religious but hypocrite. Her this hypocritical behavior
is nothing but self-praise, self-esteem. If one
father-in-law over enthusiastically takes part in
social service and religious functions, serves the
saints and is always in the front in devotion, regularly
listens the discourses, but does not miss taking dowry,
won't miss robbing in the name of dowry, then understand
that father-in-law is not a pious and devotee of
religion. His face of paucity is similar to hypocrite.
Keep in mind that one who demands dowry and robs girl's
father in the name of dowry can never be a devotee of
Ram and Mahaveera. Seeking pleasure at others cost can
never be a Samyagdristy person. Samyag Darshan
(Philosophy of Equality) is not for discussion only; it
is to be observed. At present there are many serious
discussion in the temples on equality, not none is
visible observing it in life.
Along with this I have
specially speak to the father-in-Laws that they should
not give more importance to their wife over their
daughter-in-law. Mostly if the mother-in-law complaints
against daughter-in-law,
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then the father-in-law without giving any opportunity to
hear the other side version or without properly himself
finding out the reality, takes any decision, which
results in fighting and struggle. In families where
father-son do not pay more attention to the complaints
of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in such families
there are almost no quarrels. One's order should be in
the family. In families where two different orders are
in force, understand that the peace of the family is to
vanish.
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It
so happened, father-son were sitting outside. Days were cold and
father and
son
were reading newspaper in warming sun. Inside the kitchen
mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were busy. Then something
happens. What happening, it was an accident. In the kitchen some
utensil falls and breaks. Hearing the breaking of the utensil,
the father spoke to the son: son go inside and see who has
broken? Son listened and unlistened. After sometime the father
again asked: son go inside and find out what has happened? Who
has broken the utensil? The son this time also did not listen.
He was reading newspaper and continued reading it. Third time
the father irritatingly asked: son, don't you listen? I asked
you to go inside and find out who has broken the utensil? The
son opened his mouth and said: Father! No need to go inside.
Sitting here only I can say who has broken the utensil. Hearing
son so speak, the father was much astonished. The father said,
O.K Who has broken? Son said, this glass ware is broken by
mother's hands. The father said:
What! By mother's hands?
Is it broken by your mother's hand: it could have been broken by
daughter-in-law as well. What is its proof? The son said:
Father, there is no sound from mother after the utensil broke
and it is the proof There was jingle of the utensil breaking but
afterwards no sound from mother. If this ware had been broken by
daughter-in-law's hands, then we would have heard mother's great
sound along with the jingle of utensil breaking. So this double
standards of behavior between mother-daughter-in-laws is also
the major cause of quarrels in the families. If there is
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any mistake by the daughter-in-law, then there are so many
persons to speak to her. Elders of the family start cursing her
and pounce on her. If the mother-in-law can be excused and
pardoned for that mistake, then the daughter-in-law should also,
for the same mistake, at least be excused, or make her
understand with affection. If father and son start paying
attention on this trifle issues in the family, then many
infightings and quarrels will automatically be over.
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One
thing I shall prefer to speak to the mothers of the girls, and
it is that while seeing off your daughter, your girl, do give
the wisdom and traditions to her that daughter, take that home
your real home in which you are entering as daughter-in-law.
Treat your in-laws as your father and mother and respect them,
behave with affection, to be darling of your husband be your
duty and religion. With this you also give this teaching to her
that! Daughter life is the current of Ganga, not a railway line
which moves parallel. The current of Ganga sometimes moves this
or that way and has to pass many places. Ganga passes through
many places but does not permit her sanctity to be affected.
Many turns will also come, many valleys and slops will come, but
daughter! move cautiously and don't let the sanctity of life be
affected. H you face any sorrow then weep sitting alone, but never let the
honor of the family be affected by it, and never let your tears
be visible to others, because every person is not a doctor who
will understand you sufferings and treat them.
Teachings
of
mother
to daughter shall be a precious treasure of her. Mother gives
many things to daughter in marriage, but along with these if she
gets the teaching of duty also, then in testing times and while
in trouble, she will not be disturbed and moved. I would say one
thing to the girls also, not to act as broker in the fight
between
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mother-daughter-in-laws. Such girls who in their maternal
homes gets mother-daughter-in-Law fight by backbiting will
prove responsible for the breaking of family in their in laws
home. To backbite is heinous. Girls should check themselves:
trom such acts, and glorify their parents by their loving,
charming behavior and service of the guests.
One thing I have to speak to the males also: you all desire that
your wife should be kind-speaking, courteous like Sati Sita,
Savitri: but have you ever thought that for this you shall
also have to be like Ram and live with limits and decorum of
Ram. If you desire for a Sita like faithful wife then you also
shall have to present Ram's ideals. In Indian culture wife is
not just the object of fulfilling sexual desires only, on the
contrary, wife being wife, also fulfils her duties as wife by
religion (Dharampatni). She motivates you to move on the path
of sanctity and as such she is your guide and escort;
therefore, you should understand the emotions and desires,
wishes of your wife and show respect to them. Wife is the
incarnation of Goddess. When the husband can be God, then why
not the wife can be like Goddess?
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With
this,
especially, for happy married life, husband-wife should make this
understanding
that when one is in anger, the other will become water. If
home is to be made heaven (Swarga), then such understanding
you shall have to make. If husband becomes: fire in anger then
the wife be water because :fire can only be controlled by
water. The cure of: fire is water and the cure of anger is
forgiveness. Petrol is not the cure of: fire and anger is not
cure of anger. So, if husband becomes: fire then wife be water
and when the wife becomes: fire then husband to become water. But
today's husbands have become so dishonest that they become
f"Ire ten times from morning to evening and each time
wife becomes
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water.
But if wife for once in anger becomes fire then he becomes
bonfire. It is injustice to wife.
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Males
should think that wife is also a worldly person. She too has
her emotions and expectations. She can also have anger over
any indifference to her emotions or desires so on becoming
fire, she should also be excused for once. If males start
such positive thinking about their wives, then there will be
a fall in the atrocities and exploitations against women.
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So,
I have told you something about an old woman and her
daughter frankly. I hope: you shall give deep thinking to
them and ponder over them and start a public movement
against abortion and killing of foetus and homes t1lrning
into slaughterhouses. I may tell you once again: the killing
of foetus is a great sin and is condemnable offence. Foetus
killing Doctor, woman asking for it and husband motivating
for it, all are a killer. The girl is auspicious, killing
the girl we should not invite inauspiciousness. She is
Mangal Kalash (auspicious pitcher), and to kick Mangal- Kalash girl
is sin, then to kill her should definitely be greatest sin.
If by anyone of you by unknowingly or mistake committed this
greatest sin, then repent for it by sitting at the feet of
some wise man, Acharya and pious teacher, otherwise the
results will be horrible.
You
have listened to me with love and silence, I feel obliged. I
seek your leave with this faith and confidence that you
shall be accepting others existence along with yours and let
the lives bestowed by the God be blossomed and spread
fragrance.
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